How to re-parent yourself.
Duration: 1 day
Venue: West Byfleet KT14 6EW
Next Course: Sun, 20 Jan 2019 (non residential)
It’s not that our needs are wrong. It’s usually that we’ve been going about trying to get them met in the wrong way. Even when someone else wishes he or she could provide what was missing for us in our childhood, unless the original wounding has been sufficiently dealt with, it’s like water through a sieve. Until we are healed, it doesn’t matter how much someone loves us. The heart will soon be empty again, demanding to be fed with a ferocious hunger that refuses to be abated. An endless supply of ardor can do nothing to alter the deprivation of heart when one is emotionally anchored in the past. If you are “needy,” this is your indication that you are operating out old trauma and not functioning emotionally in present time.
Is it a trauma for a child to not be cared for properly? Not to feel loved and tended to with consistency, kindness and adoration? Absolutely. Can the ravenous ache created by such a wounding ever truly be healed? Absolutely. But you must first be willing to give to yourself that which you did not get from your caregivers. You have to give up looking for others to give it to you. They can’t. You cannot get what was missing in your childhood from another person, until you actively engaged in doing all that you can to give it to yourself. It’s what is called “re-parenting yourself.