How About Changing the Record?
Thu, 19 March 2015
"Complaining is a complete waste of one's energy.
Those who complain the most accomplish the least." Robert Tew
We all like the idea of living a happier, more contented life.
Most of us are ready and able. But are we actually willing?
Do we know what it takes?
Well a good place to start is to take a look at the amount of time we spend complaining. It's a rut that we can all slip in to. But how different would life be if we cut complaining out of it altogether? Is it even possible?
What even constitutes a complaint (also known as beefing, bellyaching and bleating)?
According to the dictionary definition, 'a complaint is an expression of discontent, regret, pain, censure, resentment, grief, lament or faultfinding.' For many of us, it's almost an addiction, and it's so ingrained we don't even realise we're doing it.
The Complaint/Restraint Project was set up with one simple goal - less complaining for a month. The organisers even picked February to make it as short as possible!
"There's no secret sauce. Simply stop complaining. Be mindful and notice when it happens."
More than 1000 people signed up for the project to help them create a more positive life by eliminating negative statements.
The sad truth is that Thierry Blancpain and Pieter Pelgrims, the creators of Complaint Restraint fail their mission miserably every year because complaining is a habit that's hard to kick. Fortunately, there is another way.
Complaining comes so naturally, it's highly unlikely and perhaps a little unrealistic to expect to prevent it altogether.
Instead, consider these 7 ways you can embark on a new routine of just complaining less:
1. Be mindful of your moaning - Keep an eye on when you're complaining and what about. Becoming aware is the first step.
2. Try to avoid the 'born complainers' - Spend less time with those who revel in complaining and can't resist the constant grumble.
3. Seek a solution - It's easier to complain rather than fixing a problem. Try flipping a negative thought on its head and get in the habit of finding a positive alternative.
4. Allow yourself to vent - Don't be afraid to purposefully share your feelings with someone close (or find a therapist, support group or Try out Breath4LifeTM Breath Work taster day to gain clarity around emotional triggers). Be fully aware and benefit from the experiences gained.
5. Meditate - Along with countless other benefits, meditating helps to remove bad habits, develop willpower and gives you composure to act in considered and constructive ways.
6. Stop judging others - If you train yourself to be less judgmental, you'll find yourself complaining less about what other people do.
7. Change the record - Next time you find yourself at the centre of a complaint fest, be the change you wish to see. Drive the conversation, avoid joining in and change the subject to something constructive and positive.
Bonus Point!
8. Be willing - To make the changes you need to make and commit to taking action now.
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