Posted on Mon, 13 August 2018
In today’s psychologies and therapies there is often an unspoken, but clear salvational tone. If you could only learn to be assertive, loving, angry, expressive, contemplative, or thin, they imply, your troubles would be over. In the Middle ages and Renaissance ‘self-help books were cherished and revered but were never a cure all and didn’t promise the sky. They gave recipes for good living and offered suggestions for the practical, down to earth philosophy of life… I must say I am interested in this humbler approach, one that is more accepting of human foibles.
Jung, one of our most recent doctors of the soul, said that every psychological problem is ultimately a matter of spirit. A spiritual life of some kind is absolutely necessary for psychological ‘health’; at the same time,...Read More
Posted on Fri, 10 August 2018
Everything you would like to experience in Life is just beyond F.E.A.R.
False Evidence Appearing Real
Breathe before You Speak
This simple strategy has remarkable results.
The almost immediate result includes increased patience, added perspective and more gratitude and respect from others.
The strategy itself is incredibly simple. It involves nothing more than pausing – breathing after the person to whom you are speaking is finished. At first, the gap between your voices may seem like an eternity – but in reality, it amounts to only a fraction of a second of actual time. You will get used to the power and beauty of breathing and you will come to appreciate it as well. It will bring you closer to earn you more respect from virtually everyone you come in contact with. You’ll find that being listened to is...Read More
Posted on Thu, 9 August 2018
Everything you would like to experience in life is just beyond F.E.A.R.
False Evidence Appearing Real
It is amazing the stories we get caught up in when faced with challenges, obstacles or problems that life shows us on a daily basis…the chatter starts:
- “this is not supposed to be this way” or
- “this shouldn’t be happening”
- “Why me?”
- “If I was just good enough”
- “This is too difficult/hard”
- “I must work hard/longer/smarter”
- “If only this would happen”
- “If I could just…”
These stories lead us to building a picture of our life that’s not accurate. We spend a lot of our time, not to mention huge amounts of energy and effort to build elaborate pictures in our minds. We decide how things should look or we gather evidence from past experiences and then say “I knew that would happen…”, “This is how it’s always been…” when in reality its only happened once or twice.
So how...Read More
Posted on Wed, 8 August 2018
At some point in your life, you have to simply let go of the past… whether its letting go of a job where you feel like you’re dying a slow death, a business that no longer brings Joy or any kind of fulfillment, a relationship that was really over a years ago, or an expensive piece of jewellery that was given to you by your former mother-in-law!
When you let go, you create space for something infinitely better to come into your life.
So why is it that we make the mistake of holding on?
There is only one reason: fear.
We think to ourselves things like…
“What if I let go of this job and then the management change happens that turns this company into a wonderful place to work?”
“What if he leaves that husband stealer and comes back to me, and he’s upset that I got rid of the necklace that his mother gave...Read More
Posted on Tue, 7 August 2018
Are you a worrier? Do you constantly go over every “what if” possible? Does your mind conjure horrible images of what may or may not happen? When you try to make a decision, do worries freeze you in your tracks? If so, the following tips will help you to stop worrying and start living again. You’ll be able to take action, solve problems, make better decisions and finally relax.
When you worry your body pumps out stress hormones by the bucketful. Instead of sitting and thinking about what’s bothering you, get up and do something. Whether you can actually take action toward solving the problem you’re worrying about or just need to get your mind off of worrying in general, movement helps to release pent-up energy and funnel it in another direction. Exercise, do a load of laundry or...Read More