Posted on Fri, 7 September 2018
8. Love is the desire and willingness to give and to serve
The word “family” originally meant to serve. Jesus said, “He who would be great among you, let him become a servant.” If we live according to Natural Law, we experience that choosing to serve rather than seeking to be served is what brings happiness.
I remember a number of years ago, when I had been heavily scheduled with a lot of speaking engagements along with my regular practice, I was feeling tired and looking forward to resting on the weekend. On my way home from my office on Friday afternoon, I spoke to my husband and learned that he had come down with flu. I was compassionate with him, but inside I was disappointment I would no longer have the weekend for desperately needed rest! Then, after a pause, I realised that this thought was just from the ego’s perspective. I said to myself: “I love my husband, he is sick and...Read More
Posted on Thu, 6 September 2018
4. Love always strengthens, and never weakens.
Love is empowering, while counterfeit “love” is weakening. Power is not commonly associated with love, for we often see tenderness as being foolish or a weakness or as being out of touch with reality. In fact, most people when operating from the ego perspective, think that love and power are opposites i.e. if you are loving, you are not manifesting power, you are vulnerable or a softy and can be hurt by the people you love. We know that in times of plague, the doctors and nurses who were the most exposed often escaped any illness themselves. Mother Teressa survive for so long in the slums of Calcutta without getting one of the hundreds of illnesses she treated because compassion for another fortifies and strengthens us. We cease...Read More
Posted on Sat, 1 September 2018
3. The main function of love is to forgive.
Forgiveness and acceptance are the essential conditions of empowering Love and though they may feel similar to falling in love, they come from a solid foundation and from conscious choice rather than hormones or out illusions about the other person or ourselves. Forgiveness becomes an ongoing state of mind, not just an occasional act, although it may begin that way.
That is what Jesus meant when he told those who asked him, “How many times should I forgive my brother?” that they should forgive them, “seventy times seven.” Similarly, Buddha taught that to let go of our suffering, we must first let go of all our attachments- including our expectations and resentments of others that poison our relationships. There can be no genuine Empowering Love without forgiveness.
When you forgive you are basically overlooking those...Read More
Posted on Fri, 31 August 2018
Continuing from yesterday
2. Love is a conscious focus of the mind.
Our thoughts are the beginning of creation e.g. thoughts create things. So, with that in mind we can choose to extend loving thoughts anytime to any person anywhere. Also, since love is not an emotion that rules us, it is not affected by our changing emotions any more than it is by the ever-changing weather. Nature teaches us this love by providing crying babies during the night to disturb our sleep. We love them and so get up to take care of them, even when we are tired.
We need to redefine love and to see it not so much as an emotion as a conscious, wilful decision that one makes in one’s mind. We find it easy to love when someone is being what we want them to be, but the real test comes in difficult times – when we perceive rejection or attack – when we might ordinarily become angry or critical...Read More
Posted on Thu, 30 August 2018
Let us look at the characteristics of true, or empowering Love, so that you can begin to replace your barriers with these positive loving affirmations. Remember all creation begins with our thoughts. Therefore, when you begin thinking of love in this different way, you see immediate changes: you will feel different within yourself and in your relationships. Indeed, by loving in an empowering way, you are connecting with your True Self. The loving not only becomes effortless and natural it continues to grow moment by moment, spreading through you and to your partner.
13 Secrets to Mindful Loving
- Love is a verb.
- Love is a conscious focus of the mind
- The main function of love is to forgive
- Love always strengthens and never weakens
- Love is the desire to bring only healing to any situation
- Love is the absence of fear
- Love is...Read More